Thursday, July 5, 2012

Feedback on Your Blog

Honest feedback is important.  Having people in your life who can look at something objectively and tell you the truth is so valuable.  As women, we sometimes struggle giving or receiving feedback well.  We tip-toe around the truth to not be hurtful.  We get hurt when someone answers directly a question we asked.  I am a firm believer that if you don't really want a truthful answer, you shouldn't ask the question.  Especially to me.

I believe truth is power.  Knowledge is power.  Going along living your life thinking everything is wonderful because all the little minions around you are telling you how great you are is not wonderful.  It might feel good for a while, but it's fake.  And it does nothing for your growth.

I thought about this today as I answered a request for feedback on someone's blog.  It was fun for me, although it was tough, too.  I worried that I would say something that would hurt her feelings.  But at the same time, I saw such potential for growth.  I truly felt like I was helping her see things she was missing.  I don't expect her to change everything I said I didn't like.  She might choose to change none of them.  But having this feedback gives her options she might not have known she had.

I really feel like the most important thing about blogging is to know why you are doing it.  Are you doing it as a family history?  Are you doing it because all of your friends are doing it?  Are you doing it because writing makes you happy?  Are you doing it to make money?  Are you doing it to shut your brain up (that would be me)?  Are you doing it in the hopes of getting a book deal?  Are you doing it to connect with others online?

There are so many reasons people blog.  Maybe you blog for a reason I didn't mention.  Maybe you blog for several reasons.  We usually have a primary goal and secondary goals, even when we aren't really aware of them.  But until you know why you blog, you can never know if your blog is successful.  If you don't know what your actual goals are how will you know when you reach them?

And once you know what your goals are it's important to know what's standing in the way.  That's where honest feedback comes in.

I work very hard not to give feedback unless it's asked for.  If I see a problem on your blog, I probably won't tell you (unless you're my daughter and it's a typo).  But I love to give feedback when asked.

So I am making this offer today.  If you've ever wanted someone to look over your blog and tell you what you can improve on, send me an email or let me know in a comment.  I'd be happy to look it over and give you honest feedback.  Because we can all use a little more truth in our lives.

Oh, and I welcome any feedback you might have for me as well.

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Some recent health issues have made it increasingly difficult for me to fulfill this offer to everyone who asked.  I apologize if I didn't get to your blog.  I ask your forgiveness and wish you well in your blogging efforts.

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32 Comments:

Blogger Bonnie Atkinson said...

I love feedback too. I even write about it sometimes! And I'd love yours, although you often post supportive comments on mine.

My goal is to share my path of increasing faith, to record experiences before I lose the kernel of truth they've provided to me. My goal is to make a faith-filled life accessible to someone, though I have no illusions that it will meet everyone where they're at.

I'd love to know how, from your perspective, I'm doing at that.

July 5, 2012 at 1:49 PM  
Blogger Karissa Ancell said...

I would love feedback. I'm so new at this it would be great to get someone who isn't my husband's perspective about what I could be doing differently. I'm mainly blogging as a way to connect to others and to get my life in order and stay motivated to get things done.

July 5, 2012 at 3:51 PM  
Blogger Jessica Grosland said...

My mother is less likely to care about me walking out of the house with a giant bloodstain on my shirt than she is to worry about me posting something online that has a typo in it.

"Really," she'd tell me, "don't you care about how you present yourself?"

July 5, 2012 at 4:41 PM  
Blogger Rebecca R. said...

That's a great offer! I'll let you know if I ever get up the courage to take you up on it :)

July 5, 2012 at 6:09 PM  
Anonymous another jennifer said...

I love to give and get feedback. I think it keeps us honest and, hopefully, focused on what we really want to accomplish. It's easy to get off track...

July 5, 2012 at 7:18 PM  
Blogger Christine said...

I completely agree that it's so important to know why you are blogging. Once you start, it's so easy to get caught up in what this blogger over here is doing and what that blogger over there is doing and to lose the reason behind your blog. It's hard to give and receive feedback but it's really does help in so many ways.

July 5, 2012 at 8:44 PM  
Blogger The Lovely One said...

I don't necessarily want feedback, but what little self esteem I have could very well be shattered! But I do agree that you have to know why you blog-- are you doing it for fun, to make money, for therapy, whatever. If you know why you're blogging, then feedback shouldn't really matter, right?

Of course, if you have positive feedback... have at it! :)

July 5, 2012 at 9:08 PM  
Anonymous Nell @ Housewife Empire said...

Feedback helps me and scares me at the same time. I welcome it, but I'm petrified of what others ay say!

July 6, 2012 at 12:24 AM  
Anonymous Raquel said...

J love your honesty in all your posts! I started blogging because I wanted to share the insight I have as a parent, mother and manager with grown children. I continue to blog for me...I love being a part of such a great thing. I am inspired by so many bloggers out there. I would love your feedback (private please).

July 6, 2012 at 7:32 AM  
Blogger Pam said...

Great post! I blog for so many reasons. I have many hobbies (probably too many), and blogging is one of my favorites. It's my way of connecting, of sharing, helping, learning, growing, laughing. And I'd love to make a few bucks from it some day too! I worry about the niche thing--what is my niche, do I even have or need a niche, am I too scattered to choose a niche, or am I happy having such a broad one. (The last one fits, I think.) I'd love feedback (but I'm too chicken.) I love your blog, BTW!

July 6, 2012 at 9:25 AM  
Blogger Barbara said...

It took me a while to be comfortable with feedback. I always took any comments very personally and it took a while before I became comfortable enough to take it objectively.

July 6, 2012 at 9:30 AM  
Anonymous Erin @ The Grass Skirt said...

You're so right. Feedback really is helpful, especially when it is constructive (no one likes mean feedback!). I am all for constantly improving my blog. It is the only way to keep it successful! :) Thanks for visiting yesterday, my fellow SITS girl. :)

July 6, 2012 at 2:29 PM  
Blogger WhisperingWriter said...

I don't mind feedback but I know some people can get overly sensitive about things. So I rarely say anything unless I'm asked.

July 6, 2012 at 2:49 PM  
Blogger Actuary Mom said...

My goal is mostly to make myself happy. I used to think that it might make my kids happy someday, but it may not and I shouldn't be spending all this time doing something that might make them happy. So now it is just abut me. :)

July 6, 2012 at 4:47 PM  
Blogger Tara Denny said...

Hi Miss Robin!
Thanks for stopping by my blog today! I agree, I would rather have honest feedback than fake and undeserved praise. My feelings don't hurt easily, so I appreciate when people are honest with me, and I can always tell when they are trying to stroke my ego, it sounds so disingenuous.
I accept your offer for critique! Anytime you see something on my blog you think could be improved, please let me know!
Thanks for this post! Do you mind if I link to it sometime?
Tara

July 6, 2012 at 5:16 PM  
Blogger Sorta Southern Single Mom said...

I don't mind feedback when I ask for it or if it's from a regular reader that I've developed a connection with, but a random drop in comment with feedback would feel a little critical, if you KWIM?

That said, you've been by my 'hood enough that I'd welcome your opinion!

July 7, 2012 at 5:44 AM  
Anonymous Mothering From Scratch said...

{Melinda} So true. The truth is hard to hear sometimes, but I'd rather live in reality than fantasy land.

Just this morning, I submitted a project that is very near and dear to my heart to an editor for critique. I'm actually anxious to hear her feedback -- good and bad. I know it's the only way to get better and learn. Ignorance is not bliss!

Would love your feedback on our blog when you get a chance!

July 7, 2012 at 8:30 AM  
Anonymous Patty@homemakersdaily.com said...

If you're blogging to make money and help others, feedback is critical! But as we receive feedback, we need to remember that we shouldn't just accept it as right. We have to analyze the feedback and determine what is right for our blog. Some of the suggestions from the reviewer might be simply personal opinion and it might not fit with our goals. So we have to review the feedback in light of our goals and abilities and then apply what we can and discard the rest.

And I would love to receive feedback on my blog, homemakersdaily.com. I'm working hard to make it a blog that is profitable and helpful. It is my desire to help homemakers of all kinds enjoy their homes!

July 7, 2012 at 8:54 AM  
Anonymous Positively Alene said...

Happy Saturday SITS style. It's always a joy to be here. I would totally love feedback. That's something I always look for because I learn from it. I want to be a blog that challenge others to make a difference. Love what you are doing.

July 7, 2012 at 9:58 AM  
OpenID barefootmeds said...

What a nice gesture! I wouldn't mind some feedback, if you have the time...
Visiting via SITS Sharefest :)

July 7, 2012 at 1:30 PM  
Anonymous Libby said...

Hey Miss Robin,
This is a sweet gesture - you may get inundated with requests. I've just undergone a redesign on my blog and it now works on tablets and smartphones as well. As always I would love to know what you think.
Cheers,
Libby

July 7, 2012 at 10:40 PM  
Blogger Mom of 12 said...

OK, tell me what you think.
Sandy

July 8, 2012 at 12:04 AM  
Blogger Suzie Irvine said...

Looks like you may have a full time job on your hands. I don't have many readers and my blog skills are far below exceptional. I just post when I can sneak it in. I wish I had more time.
I still want to get together to chat, wild summer life!

Luvs Suz

July 9, 2012 at 12:20 AM  
Blogger Blond Duck said...

ME! ME! I want honest feedback! :)

July 9, 2012 at 4:54 PM  
OpenID denisemalloy.com said...

I agree! Feedback is an essential part of this process and it's helpful when people are honest (and kind ;-) in providing it. And sometimes fresh eyes can give a whole new perspective! If you ever have time to stop by my blog for a peek, I'd love your comments! It's been fun getting to know other bloggers!

July 9, 2012 at 6:05 PM  
Blogger Anne said...

You're right! Feedback is good for those who want to improve and to grow. So on that note, I'd love to know what you think of my blog.

July 10, 2012 at 3:24 AM  
Blogger Paloma said...

Feedback is great but it's hard too :) We all need to go through the "pains of growth" though! :)

July 10, 2012 at 9:50 AM  
Anonymous Evanthia of merelymothers said...

The older I get, the better able I am to handle constructive criticism, and the more valuable it is to me. I know I would really appreciate some honest feedback on our (fairly) newly redesigned site at http://merelymothers.com. If you get a chance to take a look, would you please send your thoughts to merelymothers[at]gmail[dot]com? Thanks a million!!

July 12, 2012 at 1:22 PM  
Anonymous Jennice said...

I would love feedback on my blog's design. Any way you can help, I'd really appreciate it.Btw,I'm revisting you after you visited me on mommyincolor.com. We are also SITStahs!

July 12, 2012 at 8:29 PM  
Blogger Mary said...

I say I'd love feedback but I'm pretty sensitive so if you could sugarcoat for me that would be great. :) I gave you an award, hope you don't mind!!! http://onerealisticmom.blogspot.com/2012/07/really-me.html

July 20, 2012 at 10:31 PM  
Blogger Savvy Working Gal said...

I’d be interested in feedback on my blog. I've made very few changes to it since I originally set it up in blogger. It is due for an upgrade. I don’t have much time to work on it during the week, but would like it to be as professional as possible.

July 22, 2012 at 6:32 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

Gah! Why'd you have to post this? I seriously don't know why I blog. Can you help me figure that out? I think it would help me so much. I keep going back and forth on whether or not I'm a "mommy blogger" or if I want to cover topics, etc. Help! I freakin' love your writing.

July 23, 2012 at 4:55 PM  

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