Where's my therapist when I need him?
I think all of us have had our moments of “mean”. What is most important is that you stepped out of it long ago to see your faults!
Yelp, that was mean Robin. Once in junior high I pushed a friend because I was mad at her. She fell down and messed up her knee, but never did tell on me. I've been ashamed of this since then.Writing something down makes it "stick" more.
I was mean to a two different boys back in junior high too. I recently found them via Facebook and apologized and asked for forgiveness. One did not reply and the other said he didn't remember me ever being mean in the first place. My role in meanness was more of a bystander and laughing at the jokes of others but I have never been very happy with my actions. In high school I got brave and started standing up for the bullied ones. I ended up getting bullied myself but I didn't care. The bullies didn't have the same power over me.
I have a similar high school moment that I'm not proud of - although I am nowhere near the word-smith you are. I think girls especially can be very mean. I admire your talent to write about this time and I'm sure putting it out there can only be a good thing.
I've tried to teach my children that hurtful words and actions can have an effect for a lifetime. I'll never forget a former classmate of mine telling me how awful it felt when a bunch of us showed up at her house on a scavenger hunt we were on for a birthday party 2 doors down-that she hadn't been invited to. The birthday girl knew where she lived. We were 12 at the time; we were 34 when she told me that story and it still hurt her.
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