I am not big on romance. Lovey-dovey, schmoozy, baby talk - all lost on me. Or, even worse, they irritate me. I don't read romance novels and I don't generally watch chick flicks. My friends have seen me roll my eyes and gag at book club when there's too much love story in the book we've chosen. My husband has been rejected (sorry, honey) when he's gone that route, too.
But every once in a while I feel the need to join the love brigade. (Actually, I try to be loving most of the time. It's just not easily recognizable by the people around me.)
Today, my husband and I are going to share ten reasons we each love the other.
I'm not going to call mine a top ten, because I don't want to take the time to organize them that way and I might leave out something important. It's just a list of ten; I could easily come up with many more.
Ten reasons I love my husband:
1. He loves me. Without fail. No matter what, he loves me. This matters more than I can say and is the one thing that keeps me going.
2. He believes in me. Enough that he helps me believe in myself when I'm not sure I do.
3. He thinks I'm beautiful. For real. When he says, "I love your body," he means it. And since I often don't love my body, that helps. And when he looks at me like he's the luckiest man on the planet because he has me, I know he truly feels that way.
4. He trusts me. With other men. With our money. With our home. With our kids. With his heart. Even with his dvds (usually). ;)
5. He's willing to learn and grow. He's taught me a lot about being humble.
6. He doesn't mind making a fool of himself (which sometimes makes me crazy). He's open to making mistakes. I admire this in him, mostly because I have such a difficult time with it.
7. He wants to be the man of my dreams. He tries to be what I want. He tries to talk to me the way I want. He will change his clothes when I ask him to.
8. But he also wants to remain true to who he is. He will tell me when I've pushed too far. He will stand his ground when necessary.
9. He went to therapy to save our family and our marriage. There is no way for me to express how vital this was and how much it means to me that he would go, participate, and know when he needs to go back for a tune up.
10. He supports me. He loves watching me succeed. He wants me to soar. He's willing to share me with the world. He is happy for me to be me and never tries to change me.
See, wouldn't you love him, too?
And here's his list -
Top Ten Things Bill Loves About Robin:
1. Your hair and the fact that you are not afraid to try new things with it. (This will make more sense in another post, coming soon.)
2. Your lack of jealousy of me having friends that are women.
3. Your trust in me.
4. That you are always right but are not afraid to be wrong and can admit when you are.
5. You love me - even though I'm a non-believer. This should be number one. It means a lot to me.
6. Your love for people even when you don't agree with their choices.
7. I love how well you have raised our kids.
8. How you don't let pain stop you.
9. Your humility and forgiveness.
10. You stayed with me and helped me become a better person even though you had to crawl through the mud to get me there.
I love everything about you.
We're coming up on our twenty-fifth wedding anniversary (watch for a special post that day, March 2). We've gone through a lot to get here. And I think we are closer and more in love than we've ever been. We just fit.