Imagine my surprise when he came home from work one day and told me that he'd found himself doodling while waiting for something to process at work and wondered if I could teach him to tangle. What? Really?
I tried not to let my skepticism show about his chances of success. "It doesn't matter if it's any good," I thought. "As long as he enjoys it." Did I believe that? Kind of. But I'm a bit of a perfectionist and knew I might be very judgmental of his efforts. And, honestly, at first I was.
It wasn't simple for him. His lines were shaky. He made up weird patterns. And if you compared it to mine it looked kind of childish. But that's not what art is. It's not about everything being the same. It's not about things being straight and exact. It's about expressing yourself.
His style is very different from mine. He isn't as precise (which I know sometimes bothers him). But he is willing to take chances and jump right in -- yes, like a child. He enjoys it. He is proud of it. And so am I.
I am surprised at how much happiness it brings him. I am surprised he's stuck with it. And I am impressed with the progress he's made.
And today, Valentine's Day, he impressed me again.
I am a minimalist. I don't like things. I don't want to receive stuff. Holidays are tough for me because people always want to give me things and I have to pretend to be glad they did when I'm really just thinking, "Oh, great. More stuff." (Except for cookies or homemade bread or something like that; those are always welcome -- yum!)
So today when he told me he had a surprise for me for Valentine's Day, I was trying to prepare myself. Be nice. Be grateful. Fake it. Remember it's from his heart. Even though you've told him a million times you don't want more stuff. This is how he shows love; try not to stomp on it (like I have so many times before).
As it turns out, I didn't have to pretend to like it or pretend to be grateful. Because he made me a tangle! He knew I didn't want stuff. He wanted to do something for me, to show his love. It was perfect. He used tangle patterns I love. He used blue and green (his favorite color and mine) to make it represent both of us together. He even included a Star Trek insignia (inverted) because I love Star Trek.
It was wonderful and sweet and I love him for the effort he put forth and for showing through his offering that he knows me for real.
So, as my Valentine's Day gift to him, I want to share his art on my blog. Starting with his valentine.
|Isn't it sweet?|
|His first piece, as he learned the patterns.|
|He was going for a space theme. I think he nailed it!|
|His mountain landscape.|
But if we want to boil it down to its simplest form, it's about making sure the people we love know we love them. And his gift to me did that.
It was a good Valentine's Day.